American vision, Dilemas, GOP's Vision, Leadership, poor leadership, Vision

Political Anger Management with GOP’s Aspbergers like behavior.

I used to admire the GOP during the 70’s and 80’s but… Does the new GOP have Aspbergers?  We love the principles of Liberty they claim to spouse and love their guts and work ethic  BUT … they are exhausting to watch and listen to.   When we watch the news and listen interviews, it would be easy to follow the GOP logic IF AND ONLY IF we agree with their basic assumption: That the new GOP Ideology is American Constitutional Purity and anything else must be stopped or destroyed, at any cost. More and more their reactions are tantrums  to anything that represents friction to the smooth sailing of this New RealGOP ideology. Which is simply the old WASP point of view. Clearly the GOP has very poor leadership skills and goals. Their Vision has  turned egotistical, arrogant and childish.

Their explosive responses reminds me of the reaction exhibited by some autistic  folk I know. They are perfectly fine in many areas and look normal and at times behave normal. We are awed sometimes at their unique talents.  Some autistic folk explode in strong displays of dissatisfaction or anger when told NO. This happens often …moment to moment. It is exhausting on parents and take carers, or taxpayers like in this occasion with the Government shutdown fiasco.

This Government shutdown is hard to understand through the thick smoke of burning ideologies and hate. But it is really simple once we pause to identify our core values detached of favoritism. Fareed Zakaria’s post on How to solve the crisis in Washington deserves reading. It will help the reader to discover how simple is the way to solutions. By comparing the rhetoric of both parties versus the basic teachings about our political system, we will realize how Anger has clouded our thinking through an issue.  And as a society how Anger has slowly isolated us from common sense while believing every body else lost it. How Anger is quietly soothing our sense of loss and becoming our companion.

So how do this happen to a society so advanced, curious, well informed, smart and caring like the USA? Are we burdened with data or has the digestion of information become a chore?

We may suffer with Decision Fatigue Syndrome

Our society became technically complicated and filled with information in all areas of our life: Law, medicine, crafts, business, hobbies you name it. Information became a requirement for negotiations. We are curious and fuel our need to know with more information and data. What no one suspected was that for every piece of information perused a decision is necessary. Do I think this information is data or just info. Do I believe this data? Do I trust the sources? What do I do with this? How does this info affect my goals?

It is important in our society to listen to both sides of an argument. Many political decisions are drastically different AND demand inspection or study of lots of information and make decisions about their accuracy, relevance and behavior in our lives.

Sometimes the data is drastically different from our expectations. Does this new knowledge demand a change in perspective and actions or behavior. And does it demand a character change?   DO I NEED A CHANGE IN IDEOLOGY

“Maybe a better way to describe chronic fatigue when it comes to Aspbergers and related conditions is to call it decision fatigue. The condition of decision fatigue comes from the world of social psychology  Mental fatigue is different from ordinary physical fatigue. ”

 This is how a parent blogs about caring for a child with Aspberger and continues:

“Unlike physical fatigue, you can have mental fatigue without feeling tired. What happens with mental fatigue is that you start to experience everything more intensely. You become more irritated, more easily frustrated. You may have a powerful impulse to eat, drink, spend money, or blurt out something stupid.”

 In short we are asked to make countless decisions in our daily lives.

This leads to fatigue and depression. In the long term it leads to apathy about the opinion of others or Anger.

We can easily get off the Anger and emotional fatigue train. First we can start with basic Anger Management which boils down to Growing up.

Like if ‘Am angry at KLMN because ‘His ideology puts me in danger”‘ then  ‘Growing Up’  beyond anger is pausing long enough to ask of one self: How do I really know this is true? What happened that i came to believe and agree these thoughts were real?
Now Decision Syndrome Fatigue may be one cause.

American vision, Technology

Facebook, growing irrelevant?

“Pew Internet and American Life Project that came on Tuesday February 5th said that people are Tuning out Facebook for weeks at a time is commonplace and many are taking Sabbatical from Facebook” …?  Sooo   …they are missing the point by using faulty syllogisms. See table at end of post.

The overwhelming response from all media: Modern[Web Native] and Legacy[Print & TV Networks] to the Pew and American life project report focuses on  questioning whether Facebook is on the decline or not.

  The question is typical of the Legacy Journalism mindset, they look for answers to a problem instead of looking around for the lay of the land, thus fail to observe the dynamics at play and the lessons offered.

Many have taken sabbatical on just about any subject, name it, yet this does not translate to a universal dropout of society. It is a re-alignment, simple. The most probable cause for the decision to dropout could be that many have issues with their friends opinions and behaviors. As have we all heard from Facebook users the “environment turned sour”. So you re-align your friends. Un-friend-ing is very hard for many. But wisely or not the point is that a Facebook account requires work. It doesn’t matter if one’s friends are members of Mensa or members of The Bonehead Society because they are our boneheads. The tragedy of losing a cell phone or changing Networks is not just the issue of the loss of physical device but the loss contacts and information inside, sometimes is the hardship of the necessary sync. No different for Social Networks.

Wonder why folks still use AOL?  …OK you get it.
Many bemoan their friends behavior, “How could I have known blah blah…”  Well what do you expect of a website designed at first to check out the most eligible  and maybe hook up under the radar for quick ‘intimacy’. Unfortunately many expect “perfect behavior” at Facebook. Regardless of faults many return because it is a good public forum platform to communicate ideas or events from the most trivial to the most serious.

To summarize: Those who leave Facebook will return. Complaining but will return with new ideas and attitudes towards some participants or activities. Their habits will adjust. Social Websites are like cars.

You don’t know your friends ability to certain attitudes and behaviors until you are inside of one with them, Surprise!

So those who left and have returned need to grow.  Ususaly they have learned to calmly and lovingly un-friend those who are offensive or thrash their wall with overwhelming amounts of requests and posts.  Nothing new. We have been dealing and learning to do better in these situations since the mid 1980’s [at 300 baud]

A social website/forum allows your designed/designated community to peruse information. Is easier to listen to people you know from your own community.  Facebook premise of intimacy bodes well for the American Society that values privacy. This is why Facebook does better than Google’s  G+

Any comparison to Twitter does not apply so well, environments and goals are different. There is a crossover such as a Twitter user posting links to her web blog and  Facebook  used to support the first two with a Facebook page.  This is presently implemented by many to the good fortune of Facebook and users.

Today, February 6 of 2013 a Google search for “Facebook usage” returned 108,000 results. The first page had all results with content from the Pew Research about Facebook users showing “Facebook Fatigue”, the results came from articles written by: GMA News,  NY Times,   Vator News,  Forbes,  ZD/Net,  Media Post Communications,  Central Valley Business Times. All first page links pertained the Pew report. Yahoo returned 1,880,000 results with 8 out of the first 10 about same report. And Bing showed almost same results as Yahoo.

Yet Facebook stock is going up as I write this post. In December 2012  the company posted net income of $64 million well ahead of estimates of $45.8 million. Likewise, the company beat EPS estimates by 2 cents, earning 17 cents per share. [Reported by]

Facebook [ FB : ticker] is at $29.15  up 0.51  up 1.78%

Facebook has made The Essential transition to become a Mobile Company.   Facebook is still the largest social network with over 1.06 billion people logging in every month. Remember that is not registered users who have created an account but people who do go and check their Facebook profile every 30 days.

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